So, I'm attributing this to that bug. I got it working by stopping the cluster, going go the Realm config and just clicking save without changing anything, then restarting the cluster... go figure.
I had restarted of the cluster before, but tried saving of what I thought were saved changes in the realm settings while the cluster was off.
This is quite an annoying bug...
Thanks for the help!
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