Yes, you're correct. There is no asadmin command that lists the targets of the resource references.
The only way to do that is using the list/get dotted-name commands.
To find out if the resource is referenced by a target is "list-resoure-ref <target>". But this way only tells you if one target is referencing the resource.
Please open a RFE for this feature.
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